Psychic Callers Anonymous

Today's topic is another important step in breaking the cycle of calling. Also, general notice in advance; I will generally write in the terms of male/female relationships and getting a male ex back. This is not in anyway meant to insult anyone, and I full heartedly embrace everyone no matter your gender or preference. :) 

Today's topic: Removing temptation. 

By now I am sure we've all labeled our psychic calling as a bad habit (or even an addiction). One of the first steps to get past an addiction or bad habit is to remove the temptation.

If you're on a diet, you don't keep buying Little Debbie cakes so that they can stare at you every time you open the pantry, right? No way! You remove that temptation of junk food from your house and you don't buy any the next time you go shopping. 

So why not remove the temptation of calling? Delete your account, and don't turn back. Set your email filter to automatically send all emails from any and all psychic sites to your spam box. Do not go back. 

Now of course, everyone's case is different. But what if you find yourself struggling with contacting your ex? Or rather..not contacting them? Don't worry, we've all been there.

It can be tempting, you know their number is sitting there in your phone. You can see their facebook. It's so easy to dial them up or stalk away. The key here is to NOT. Don't go looking for trouble. Don't go digging, looking to see something. You are literally looking to hurt yourself. Does the stalking ever actually feel good? You see them with friends, you get pissed they're out and worry about who all is there. You see they post something happy and you wonder why they aren't laying around sad missing you. Or you start stalking wondering if they're seeing someone new. That's the worst.

There is a chance you might see something with your ex and someone else. Maybe its a rebound, maybe just a friend, maybe a complete stranger and they're playing their own emotional warfare. You just don't know. But, your mind just starts going, your heart starts beating, and then you're on the phone with another 10 advisors, in a panic, trying to find out who this girl is, are they serious, is he coming back, on and on an...you get it. My point is; don't go digging. Don't go stalking. I'm not saying you have to delete and block them. If you truly find it hard to see their posts, just hide their posts for the time being. 

Unless the relationship/breakup was truly horrific, one thing I generally do not advise, is deleting their number or facebook. Why? Well... a number of practical reasons really. 

1. In case of emergency. Once upon a time you could rely on him, and in a pinch you might be able to again. Or, God forbid should something happen to a mutual friend, it will be good to have a way to reach him. 

2. In the event he contacts you. How often do we recognize numbers nowadays? At least if he contacts you don't have to play the awkward line of "new phone, who's this?". You will know who it is. And the choice to respond or not is in your hands. 

3. The chance of rekindling. There's that hope of getting back together. And, there's always a chance it could happen. Deleting their number could hurt you in the end.. quite frankly it looks a bit childish. You deleted someone out of spite. How would you feel if they had deleted you? The "new phone, who's this?" line doesn't work so well we we all know everything is saved to the cloud and easily downloaded again with every new phone.

4. Friendship. Even if you don't get back together, perhaps in time you will want to be friends. It's a lot easier to reach back out after the hurt has healed, when you still have their number. And again, it saves a lot of potential embarrassment of the "who's this?" if they contact first.

Now, if you find yourself struggling with contacting your ex, try changing their name in your phone, at least temporarily. Changing it to DO NOT CONTACT or DONT YOU DARE or JERKBRAIN may be a little kick to put down the phone or text your best friend instead.

It won't be easy at first, but removing the temptation is a good first step. Especially the deleting of your account on any psychic site. It can take anywhere from an hour to a couple of days to hear a response. But when you do it's rather freeing, like a large weight is just gone.